To Be Truly Selfish Is To Be Selfless

From the day we are born we view this world from our perspective, a perspective where we seem to be the center of this reality. All that appears real to us is what we want, what we feel and what we think. Selfish nature seems to be innate within our brains and yet as we age, some of us develop a selfless nature for we learn to see from the perspective of the others around us. Those who suffer more understand the sufferings of others, those who experience hunger know what it is for others to go hungry and etc. Yet, with all the information around us to adequately equip us with the wisdom of the suffering and pain of all those around us, our selfish nature seems to prevail most of the time.

I used to be a bad tempered selfish brat that only cared about what I wanted, this eventually developed into how I wanted people to feel because obviously most of the time, I couldn't get what I want and somewhere along the way, I realized that it was a downward spiral of negative emotion and desire which is selfish above all else. Eventually, I also realized that getting what I wanted out of the spite of getting what I wanted, never really filled that gap of want in me. That was where I started to learn to start the chain reaction of goodwill which would only come back to me and others I cared for... that was my first frail understanding of karma. What I want can pass as easily as a thought in my mind but the karmic ripples of thought and action could eventually rupture into a tsunami of destructive thought waves.

I'm 30 this year, I have met almost every kind of person there is to meet... by learning not to judge at an early age, I was able to befriend everyone from a junkie to a religious fanatic... by understanding the state they were in and why they are the way they are, forces you to accept why they need to be, who they are and what makes them tick. That in turn forced me to dig deeper in myself to see why I am the way I am. This cyclical inner self diagnosis can be overwhelming and tiresome at times; but it made me look at myself in the 3rd person for the last 10-15 years. That is why sometimes I am not even sure who I am, let alone the purpose of my existence.

With meditation and thought, I begun to see that what is, is, and why I exist? Is to simply exist. And to exist as me is simply not enough as we all exist as one and as many. Under a microscope we are an individual, but as a whole, we are one enormous conscious and sentient being, every single matter in the universe is a part of us. So to be selfish on a full scale, we would have to fill every want from everyone, which is impossible, so the next logical thought process would be to eliminate that pointless want. And that is why Wisdom and Compassion goes hand in hand. If you understand selfishness in love and in hate, then it would make sense to you to love all of ourselves (everyone around us) and hate all that would make any of us feel pain and suffering. And to achieve that, each of us would need to attain enlightenment, god's grace and/or Allah's love, for IF it can be possibly deduced that the billions of us are as one, why can't the beliefs we have be similar, but merely tainted by interpretation and translation. For, it takes courage to love someone, but great courage to love everyone. So if you are innately selfish, like 99% of the world, you need to rethink the scale of the self that you comprehend.

Comments

[Genaline]

Hey Casey, am glad to be the first one to post a comment.. Fifteen years back, I have written a poem on Selfless LOve..Its so unlikely for one to define and comprehend the mystery behind suffering..much more so the real meaning of LOVE..I am a Catholic and LOVE is defined by one simple act..by that man named Jesus Christ who was nailed on the CROSS for the sake of love. To love is to suffer with and for..the loved one..Love can never be without pains..And such mystery remains to be unveiled..Cause one can never love without suffering..Thus, to LOVE all would mean SELFLESSNESS..That I agree..BUT to love is to ACT, not mere thoughts, not mere words..because LOVE for a Catholic Christian is an ACTION WORD.. Thanks Casey for your thought-provoking blogs..'til the next, I would be waiting..take care...

[Genaline]

Addendum: To be selfless, we run the risk of losing one's SELF.. One needs to be aware of such RISK..God bless!!

[lindon bernard]

ok lang;weirdo

[Dorothy]

Hi. very thought provoking.

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[DeZs]

Very true indeed. Its a delicate balance between 2 extremities. Anything on either end is hazardrous. Having no slef is also euqal to having no meaning, which equates to no life.

I personally believe that meaning is the most important principle that carries a person through life. Everything else is a reflection of the meaning the person hold dear to. Selflessness is more of an expression of another meaning hidden beneath.

[mhayanthony]

be strong always coz God is always there to guide us!!!!!!!

[aurora high]

dude relax, smoke marijuana, give love, chillout.

[ViNCe]

nice entry

[eipy]

hi

[카 렌]

I'm glad it didn't take you that long to come to such realization in your life. Most people who reach 50 do not even have the slightest idea as to what destructive habits they have...so cheers to you Casey!

[danna]

great to know that there is people like you realize what is around us and be compassionate of it. cheers

[sol laurence]

well i have no comment for that

[danika]

hhhiiiiiii..........

[ling]

wow speechless

[fika]

Its so cool for me..but, where did you when you felt like that?? Selfish is not good for our environment..

[Karl Joseph]

Nice...very inspiring...

[Devy]

so cool.........

[ChristianGerard]

an inspiring point of view. well i really appreciate sum1 having the same point of view. that the world is not merely composed of good people.

but loving selflessly is also loving selfishly. u are selfish to what ur subconscious mind is telling u. selflessly. from the word self+less. meaning giving ur ALL. that's selfishness.

we would like to show appreciation and gratitude for the author.. thumbs up.

[amin]

hhiii!!! soryy i have no comment for that.....

[raze]

no comment

[Bing]

hi, this is really thought provoking.. agree with you that selfish nature is innate in all of us, no exemption. it cannot be removed actually. it appears depending on an event or a situation. however, the level is diminished as one, as he age, learn about some values or principles or people that make us realize that we are selfish.

[iRmZ]

nice one... :)

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[Jo]

It is your perception and I respect yours trully. At this point of my Life I've learned not to give much attention with what other people thought of me. The hell I care if society based their judgement by merely looking at me and seeing my deeds through their naked and microscopic eyes. I do love your post this time. Inspiring and negative force is far from the system. More of this please. Thank You. God Bless.

[almira]

Well, I like it...some demented voice from my past is calling me while reading this...LOL! anyways, I too turned 30 this year and I also question myself what can I do to myself to be more productive? Then, I realized that there will always be a masterplan for all of us...we may not like it but eventually we will understand why it happened...so turning 30 is not that bad as long as you have faith...I agree with you, everything that you do good or bad there will always be a chain of reaction...like in friendster blogs...

[Karto]

Not bad.. but...

[aJee]

Nice to know I'm not alone.. Just make sure we're keep our self in the middle.. Hey, how about making a Club? Those things are really unique..

[dial]

indeed its true,as we grow older we learn and meet all kinds of people..from there we get to know ourselves and learn the purpose of our existence..but at least it didn't take u that long to realize..nice blog

[dReEcH]

hey, uhm..i'm not here to critize or give a compliment..well honestly, i understand the way you defined selfishness..I usually observe the way people think, feel and react to certain circumstances or ideas. just a thought, have you ever asked yourslef (since you mentioned self diagnosis) about why can't you or anyone fill everyone's needs or wants?

[Steste]

Hi! i have got one for you, to be truly selfish is to eat FISH. Hahahaha! just kidding!

[Zia Nicole Kim]

zup???hope ur a good person hehe??can we friends?

[Zona]

I don't exactly know the effect of your write ups to me but definitely it has an impact in my mind and heart. Hope you could reach out to me as I also feel the same. I am shattered right now and i don't know where and how to start. I guess i need to contemplate and be by myself to think deeply.Help!

[jAy AnN]

wow nman nosebleed............

[debbie]

ok lang

[max]

well its not bad,when u realized bad things you've done its quit easy,but sad to think if you notice your still doing it...all of us has its own weakness,then really trying hard for good, now whats the trick not to lead you back on the same way.......

[Lydia Liaw]

serious wht u share so deep & so complex...i ard ur age...don't really unstd la....but i like selfless...love unconditionally from God i believe!!!!!!!

[alies]

"god's grace and/or Allah's love"

and you are... ??

[Wulan]

hii, i just give some word 2 u that this worl's very beaty so u can do d'best 2 all people in d'world

[dya.ezora]

hye..

[hannah]

thats the truthhhhhhhhhhh

[genifer]

well, that's a good thought.

[amabelle]

its true.. like the article

[Sai]

that's the power of speech!!! i agree. Nicely done:-) ery interesting...it helps a lot.

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[amy]

absolutely right.....nice views......

[yusliza]

i love reading ur thought. :)

me also turns 30 this yr. (just 3 days ago .. he he)

And beyond this point, i realize so many things in life. Age makes us grow mature. There is nothing we can do on our own power to make up for the times we have hurt those we loved, or the wrong we have done. Except, apologize where you need to, and find true forgiveness by asking God's forgiveness. Then you will find the true spring in your heart. None of us are perfect, but we all can be forgiven.

[ricardo]

we are all selfish as a human its natural for us, what ever satuation, most of all in our heart aches... as my expprience I falling in love with my bestfriend not just and ordinary love its conficated, were both male I LOVElove him so much, I gave all the understanding, but it wont last........ that was my first heart ache.. nag hiwalay kami but iginigiit ko parin na mag on parin kami, to the point na pinag mumuka ntya akong tanga I accept kasa mahal ko parin xa..ayaw kong maangkin xa nang iba.. dapat sakin lang xa.but then narealize ko na mali ako sarili ko rin ang sinasaktan ko,,, kaya ni let go ko nalang xa kahit masakit... sayang nga lang at pati friendship namin nalet go... pero dito sa puso ko kaibigan ko parin xa

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[Diky]

good artikel, i think selfish is our closed enemy

[cristina]

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[marilyn]

Hi
not only knowing why you exist or simply what's the purpose of life? nice article...

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[adel]

hi........

[jenah]

I never thought that a drunkard could also have such point of view.

[RoxannE Mae]

Godbless! un lng

[cutie]

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[Prita]

Cool blog!

[odesa may]

we are all intitled to our own opinion no one could change that!wheyher they liked it or not!WHAT MATTER IS AT ANY POINT IN LIFE YOU CAME TO YOUR SENSES!TO STAND UP IN WHAT YOU BELIEVE!!GOD BLESS!!

[shikiena]

hey casey!u r definitely ryt...i appreciate what u have written..

[jonathan]

hmm great

[princess]

Sometimes being selfish or selfless is driven by our motives. Its human nature to be selfish but its also our nature to change that nature....

[lim]

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[joi]

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[Soegeng]

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[divine]

you can not be a true person if you are selfish... that is bad you know? keep smiling always...

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[My blog]

nice of u ha? if u have that opinion through ur own perspective it's gotta be great. though, i havent finished yet to read it (coz I'm too lazzy reading too much writing) but I really understand what u mean in the first paragraph. u know...so many people refuse to learn to look around to the invironment that's what I see on some people surround me....

[julie]

That nice said. I understand what you wrote here. "For, it takes courage to love someone, but great courage to love everyone. So if you are innately selfish, like 99% of the world, you need to rethink the scale of the self that you comprehend." Yup. this one so true, it takes extremely great courage to love everyone especially someone that not goes with same path with you. Have a good time, Casey.

[eRRen]

i read your blog in just the right time. i needed this message. thanx casey!
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[eRRen]

i read your blog in just the right time. i needed this message. thanx casey!
by the way, you're very "word-ful"...lolz

[Maribel]

grats! its such a wonderful thing happen to u! u must be thankful not all ppl realized life like u :)...thanks for sharing. God Bless

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你说你已经厌倦了
想要逃开
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你说你已经明白了
我为了爱徘徊
我盼你能紧握
但你已经松开
你说
无心再爱......

♥第三者而第三者♥

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习惯一个人的我
并不是缺你不不可
如果你是爱我的
就别让自己在犯错
我很快乐
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悲伤的剧情太多
曾经总侵袭着我
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这第三者的第三者........

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我懂了他
他不让眼泪落下
所以让爱结束在最美刹那
他的眼里进了沙
她算了吧够了吧
不要再苦苦挣扎
我懂了他
不要我为他牵挂
他说天空很大要自由飞翔
没有结果的爱请
他放了吧走了吧
不想要彼此受伤……

[carlos]

I'm 32 now and I started to have the same questions when I turned 30. I just cling to the next passion that still accessible to me and puts off those endeavors that I long to be into for another day when I am better equipped for it.
If you're ever up for some long drawn discussions on almost any topic, my e mail add is c.sumalojr@yahoo.com I am usually online Sunday afternoon 'til night.

[jhoeseff]

i got a situation that my ex.gf is selfish too... i dont think is a natural act. lyk neurotic disorder she did. sometimes i feel bad for her doing..then i couldn't take anymore i gave a lot of support to understand her situation but she did stupid things to me.i dont know what im supposed to do.im tired to read her mind want she want in her life now.she feels important and entitled to special favors they really dont care about how other people are feeling and reject..i dont know why? she want me to make her happy in the way she want me to worry like she did now..she say she got a leukemia though she have not!now i let her go and wishing she realize my love for her.

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[BRENDA]

im out of words.. =) kept me in silence for seconds, your thoughts made me stop and think and i dunno, can't explain.

[rizaneth]

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[nerissa]

hi casey...i love ur blog...u got me thinking more of other people than myself...uve got a point in there.hope to read more of your blogs..

[M a R i e F e L]

FIRST TIME TO VIEW...... INSPIRED!

[Simply Red]

I'll be turning 30 this year too but to be honest I don't know how am I gonna feel. Excited?! or I dunno...

It's a good realization Casey. It only means that you have a life, a sane life or whatever since life is full of mystery, hehe. Loving whatever around us isn't hard it just takes a little selflessness sometimes. or having an illusion that the pains & sufferings we couldn't escape is a reminder or a guide to really feel the real happiness & contentment. It's like real life is in sync with joy & sorrow.

[♥~rHeA~♥]

-lUv it!

r u a christian?

[arlyn]

hello..'

[bel]

Hi there!
It's nice to know that sum1 have managed to maintain certain moral values despite the kind of world that we're living right now..sumhow there's still hope.
God be with you!

[jojo]

no. hp'y mna

[pRescY]

actUaLly wheN yOu becOme selFleSs,

the wOrld aLso becOmes selfless for the thinGs that yoU want/need...

yOu caN caLL thaT gOoD kaRma i guEss..

=)

[♥♥sHerAH♥♥]

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[♥♥sHerAH♥♥]

you KnOW nOt AlL ThE tIMe ThAt We CaN get WhAT WE WANT..ThERe times WeN fAiLure comes in our way..so you better dont be selfish enough to handle this coz once for a while in our lives we are alSo A LOsER OF OUR OWN FATE...so you better strive and believe to tha almighty one and also to yourself..don't kEeP on pretendig in your feelings ok?hehehe i just want to know u you're a good writer..hehehe

[roger]

it's nice!!!

[roehl]

I love the way you express your thought, buddy! You are absolutely right. We are composed in and as a single matter composed of matter hence we cant just disregard ourselves. We are a unity in diversity!

[Grace]

very well said! i agree in your deepest point of view in life.it is indeed in one point of our life we need a reflection a strong realization.. we should really know our main purpose in this life. Life is so short..live it to the fullest what we sow today we reap tomorrow GODBLESS U!

[emelyn]

well its so nice blog i can see it even though i was late to read, but i appreciate it, we need to be selfless sometimes but never for the all time...thank you!! it is my first comment..

[emelyn]

well its so nice blog i can see it even though i was late to read, but i appreciate it, we need to be selfless sometimes but never for the all time...thank you!! it is my first comment..